Living in the jungles and long periods of time in isolation has changed our life and perspective on many things but one greater than all is friendship. Some of our heroes and those we respect who have accomplished amazing tasks in this world, have relationships with those who believed in them, encouraged them, prayed for them, and even sacrificed to see their goal accomplished. So how do you meet “those” kind of people. The answer may not be what you think. Often in this world, we look for those who are more successful, richer than us, and more powerful because we think that will help us. But, let us share with you the kind of friendships you should have in your life to help you reach your goals, to bring happiness, to endure with you, to empower you, and encourage you when times get tough.
Make friends with a lot of people who are much poorer than you.
Why? Because they will teach you about yourself. I have found that sharing meals, kids playing games together, and talking about life can change my heart, perspective, and fill me with great fullness. Often these friends can be our greatest cheerleaders in life and often live a life less distracted by material things.
Make friends with those who are accomplishing goals that benefit others more than themselves.
Why? Because if you read anything about happiness, you’ve read that it truly is “better to give than to receive.” Those who live a life giving more, have wisdom to share that only they can understand and explain to you. They have secrets that you will need to learn.
Make friends with those who are already in a tight knit community.
Why? Because they know how to live life with others and can make the most loyal of all friends. These are the ones who may bring you in to a group prepared to love and care just as they have for each other. Don’t instantly label a group as a ‘”click” but feel them out to see if they are welcome to outsiders as yourself. You may be surprised to find that its their genuine love that binds them together.
Make friends with many other nationalities.
Why? There are more reasons than I can mention in this blog but here are the best three. Their ideas are likely better than yours (even if you are an American:). They can probably do it more simply, naturally, and less expensive than you can. Their perspective can make you better such as Asians teaching me that living life as a community is better than striving alone as an individual.
Make as many friends with those who have suffered much in life.
Why? “You can’t change the ocean or the weather, no matter how hard you try, so it’s best to learn how to sail in all conditions.” You may have to go to a nursing home for this one but I challenge you to go today. Many have suffered through war, depression, poverty, homelessness, addiction, rejection, hunger and many have never suffered, or not yet. Learn lessons now and if you can “interview” these friends as they may likely be willing and desire for their story to be told.
Make friends with those who are confused, lost, and a bit immoral.
Why? You never know, you may be the one who is a bit confused, lost, and immoral, or judgmental to those who are either way either our hands should always be stretched out. I have found that deep down we are all a little or a lotta broken and sometimes we need to be reminded of that.
Make friends with God and those who are making friends with God.
Why? People will let you down, even the good people, but only the one who created you can meet all your needs. Give Him most of your time in love and adoration.