Recently circumstances are not as I have wished. The puppy died suddenly, a disagreement broke out unexpectedly, and stressful demands have been placed in front of me. I found myself saying “when it rains, it pours.” Then I begin to think, how do I feel when I say this to myself? Fearful, apprehensive, and waiting for the worst. It’s a downward spiral I’ve found in myself before. It’s these kinds of beliefs that hold us back in life. Hurdles, pains, and difficult seasons come but they also go. The fact is that painful events can often put us on alert for more painful events leaving us feeling as if there is some black cloud over our head or a curse.
The truth being that a hard event often leaves me feeling weak. I expect too much of myself following these kinds of events instead of allowing myself the rest that need. When I don’t get the silence and rest, everything feels like a burden. Then the saying fills my head “when it rains it pours.”
These days the media, conversations among friends, and even our favorite TV shows play into this lie. Bad after bad after bad leaves us waiting for . . well, the bad. But truth says that there is more good out there then the bad but our minds often cling to the bad intensifying its impact.
So, when I reflect in quiet on my life. I too realize that I tend to intensify the negative when in reality am surrounded by good. Difficult seasons come and go, sadness doesn’t stay forever, and there is no curse. Like this info graph, I too am a thumbs up.
Here are several strategies to apply to increase happiness in your life when hard times hit. As always, I will only share with you the ones that I’ve tried and work.
1. In the immediate, you need calm perspective. A time to pray, meditate, think straight before you face the world again.
2. You know who they are. They know who you are. You need them and to talk about what’s bothering you.
3. Something in you will want to pull away, stay home, not pick up the phone but resist the temptation. This is the time to pull your love ones closer and not push them away.
4. What you believe is so important during trials. It’s what comes to surface when you suffer. You can choose to believe in what you know is best and what you know you need. Believing is not a feeling but rather choosing to accept.
Most importantly, believe that your life was created for great things and pain is temporary and necessary in that plan.