48 Ways Depression Made Me A Better Person

Hurt People, hurt people.

Healed People, heal people.

I knew I needed to heal so that I could rid the darkness in my mind, thoughts, and heart from me and not be prickly like a porcupine to others.  I prayed this day would come and honestly wasn’t sure it would.  In the midst of pain, I couldn’t imagine ever being able to say that I was grateful for the pain.  I knew I needed to heal but felt helpless in doing anything about my condition.

I lived in a jungle, mostly isolated from others except from my family, and distant from modern healthcare systems that so many depend on these days for these issues.  The first question you may wonder is how did I heal?  To answer that, read Part 1 of this blog: Hi! I’m A Christian and I Suffered From Depression.

I use to want to go back in history and change the events that hurt me but now I wouldn’t change it for anything.  I like the new me.  It stripped me bare of my ugly hidden side like a diamond polished by a jeweler.  I discovered who I was, the good and the bad.  But most importantly, I have gained wisdom that comes from perseverance.  I want to share this wisdom with you today.

What I learned through depression and anxiety and encouragement for those still in their dark tunnel.

  1. I won’t allow my feelings to bluff me anymore.  They are just feelings, harmless, and they come and go.
  2. Nothing is more important on earth than people and spending time with others is never a waste of time.
  3. I’ve developed patience by enduring circumstances out of my control.
  4. All people are interesting and I ache to know all people better.
  5. My faith is growing.
  6. I tend to expect too much of myself and need to remind myself of that often.
  7. I am an extrovert who has learned to love being alone.
  8. Female hormones affect my feelings but I can be aware of this and choose to not use it as an excuse.
  9. Wisdom comes from going through fire.  Knowledge comes from school.  They are different.
  10. I have a more keen awareness of my complicated self in that I am spiritual, emotional, and physical and all three are balanced to keep me sane.
  11. Pain creates greater empathy for a greater number of people.
  12. I can accept that in this life there will be people who don’t like me.
  13. I do not have to work at making people like me.
  14. It’s okay to cry in public.
  15. Cold cucumbers help puffy eyes from crying all night.
  16. Nature, food, loving people, music, flowers, and all other things that please our senses were given to us to heal us.
  17. I need more sleep in life.
  18. My husband will love me in the good and bad.
  19. Animals remind me of the complexity of our creator and creation.
  20. All people have an aura, a soul, that attracts and draws others to themselves.
  21. There are people who know how to love and there are people who do not.
  22. I can love all people.  I know I can.
  23. I need more quiet in life and will always have to fight to find it.
  24. Life should be slower and less busy so that we have more time for others.
  25. I will live God’s purpose out in my life whether I feel happy or sad.
  26. I don’t have to be happy.
  27. It’s okay to feel sad even if it’s for months or years.
  28. I can accept anything that comes my way whether I like it or not.
  29. Rejection is evil and no-one should go through it.
  30. Social media is not good or bad in itself.  It depends on the user.  I used it for good and have made numerous good friends!
  31. Forgiveness is facing the anger and bitterness is running away.
  32. Being victorious in depression is a choice but the fruit of that choice may not be seen for months or years.
  33. I will forgive others.
  34. Sometimes being brave means doing nothing.
  35. Feeling the full range of emotions means I’m alive!
  36. Helping others heals me.
  37. I believe in God even when I don’t feel Him.
  38. I am no longer naive.  I take longer to bring others into my inner circle but that’s okay.
  39. During times of depression, it is hard to empathize and love others though not impossible.
  40. Obsessive minds can accomplish lots in this life when the obsessed mind learns to aim and calm it.
  41. I am full throttle ahead and not good at going slow. So what?!
  42. What doesn’t kill you will make you stronger.  It’s a good song.
  43. I don’t have to agree with others on everything to enjoy being with them.
  44. I worship God when I meet new people.  I love peeling back the layers.
  45. I can be friendly to all people even when I know they don’t like me.
  46. My depression made me a better mother.
  47. My depression made my children better people and did not damage them.
  48. I couldn’t have done any of this without prayer, faith, and confidence in who I am as a created loved being.  That is why I know how valuable you are too!

For some humor on this topic don’t miss the previous blog: What Not To Say To A Person Suffering From Depression.

13 Comments on “48 Ways Depression Made Me A Better Person

  1. This is an absolutely fabulous post Ann. So much wisdom in your words and so much that I can relate to. Thanks for your heartfelt honesty. xo

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  2. Ann,
    Thank you so much for sharing your struggle. I have dealt with cyclical melancholy since I was a child and anxiety mixed in in later years. I have come to many of the same conclusions you have and many of those conclusions were reached during my time working alongside you (interesting where new culture intensity will take you). Interestingly I had much the same vision you had but of my worn soul clinging to Gods foot as He dragged me into the light and His healing and wisdom. Proud of your endurance and willingness to embrace the sadness and pursue joy. I am always available to discuss and listen if needed.

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    • Thank you so much for choosing to message me. I love the body of Christ being vulnerable and honest about our struggles. I am surprised to hear of your struggle along with many others who have crossed my paths for years. How can we say we know each other when we can’t even share our daily struggles? Thank you for sharing and I will take you up on that offer one day! Blessings on your journey!


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  5. This is such a great post, very open and inspiring. Thank you for sharing. God is good yes He is! It’s not easy to be vulnerable about yourself but you have done so here in this post! I believe that mild to severe anxiety and depression is much more common and widespread than is even admitted!

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    • Thank you so much Emma and you are right. Depression and anxiety disorders are increasing. What I love about writing about it is that friends I thought I knew share their private struggles with me. We all need to be more vulnerable to walk closely with others. Thank you for stopping by!

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