The Ancient Practice Of One Day A Week Rest

In the year of 2009, our partner in business and best friend died of a sudden heart attack at the age 43.  Why did he die so young?  He didn’t get enough rest.  Next week, I turn 43.

Are we the first generation to ignore rest?  I’m sure the answer to that is no.  Actually many Biblical scholars will tell you that they pinpoint the fall of the Israelites beginning with ignoring one of the Ten Commandments instructing them to rest one day a week, what they called the sabbath.

Today, I’d like to take a fresh unique look at this ancient practice in hopes we can put  new lenses on an old topic.

Putting time aside for rest is a practice that is not foreign to any society since the beginning of man.  Many religions promote this practice as essential for their followers claiming peace, hearing from God, and a calm mind being the result.  But as much talk as there is on this topic, it is not played out in western society these days.  With my friends early heart attack on my mind, I began my research looking at the physical impact of lack of rest.

Physical Impact of Lack of Rest

My grandma told me her joints are getting weaker, so I told her to roll them tighter.

Some of you got that one.  Truthfully, none of us want to take on the pains of aging but research shows the best way to stay young is to rest often and fully.  Lack of rest and sleep decreases productivity and is linked to many chronic diseases including diabetes, heart disease, mental health disorders, and blood disorders.

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Rest seems to be God’s plan to heal our bodies.  Any athlete will tell you rest is essential for physical training. Rest is needed for muscles to repair themselves and prevent injury.

When many people get tired, they quit. Often we push ourselves not realizing that the time off is what we need to accomplish our goals. Without it, we fatigue and give up!

Rest for The Mind

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“Sometimes you need to sit lonely on the floor in a quiet room in order to hear your own voice and not let it drown in the noise of others.”
Charlotte Eriksson

What about our minds?  Here we need a reality check.  Look closely at the info graph below.  Look at all of the up arrows meaning that our lives as Americans, are much busier than ever before!

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Ask many of yesterday’s philosophers and they will tell you rest is essential for the mind. Leonardo da Vinci said, “Every now and then go away, have a little relaxation, for when you come back to your work your judgment will be surer.” And Ovid, the Roman poet, said, “Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.” Your mind requires rest.

Ask corporate leaders and they will tell you that rest is essential for productivity. Forbes magazine recently wrote, “You can only work so hard and do so much in a day. Everybody needs to rest and recharge.” Your productivity requires rest.

Therefore, when it comes to ancient traditions of sabbath day rest, are you getting the quiet, rest, and sleep you need to be healthy physically, emotionally, and spiritually?  The answer for me was “no.”

My Personal Crisis From Lacking Sabbath Rest

After suffering for 2 years from panic attacks, I began taking the sabbath and other times of rest seriously.

I now value quiet for the brain, especially long periods of silence.  (You tend to start valuing that after your 4th kid!)   Before I experienced my first panic attack, I was happy. I was busy.  My life was poured out for others and I enjoyed every minute of it.  But, 6 months before the panic attack, the stress increased.  Instead of finding rest, I pushed harder.  I gave up the Sunday rest to teach others, attend gatherings, and then have meetings with leaders.  I began calling Saturday my day of rest.  But, this too was quickly filling up with kids activities and errands we needed to run. The only way I can explain it is that my brain went on overload.  It started racing and couldn’t be quiet.  I couldn’t make it stop no matter how many times I tried.  It too me 2 years to overcome panic attacks in my life.  I am now panic attack free for 8 months.

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Rest For The Soul

What about the spiritual need for rest?  Was the Sabbath intended for rest or activity?  I am treading deep waters here so I will leave that question sitting unanswered.  But, I desire to say that we tend to fill every moment with busyness even our spiritual pursuits are noisy.  But, when does your soul find rest?  To read more on this: Meditation As The Foundation Of My Spiritual Walk: Part 1

“Thou hast made us for yourself, Oh Lord, and our heart is restless until it finds its rest in thee.” Augustine of Hippo

Rest and quiet are essential for spiritual growth.  You can read every book on spirituality and memorize the Bible but without quiet rest, I believe you will not experience spiritual maturity.  How can I be so certain?  Beginning with the Ten Commandments to Jesus, who defined it for us, teaching that the sabbath day was a day of rest for the benefit of man (Matt. 2:27).  If Jesus thinks its important for my betterment, than I do too.

 What Keeps Us From A Rest Day A Week?

We are a society that does not value quiet and rest.  We no longer believe that we need it or we think that this can be done later in life.  The question we need to ask, in light of these glaring obvious issues, is what do I value more in my life than rest.

  • Is it work?  Is it getting the right promotion? Fear of looking lazy or demotion?
  • Is it our children’s social life or activity schedule?  We are in an endemic of busyness and our kids are the master of it.  Think about that.  We are guilted into managing a social book compared to a Hollywood star from the 70’s.  Our kids “need” to be part of that athletic team with practices daily, music lessons that they hate, the book club to get them into Harvard and so on.  Not to mention, the shopping and salon “needs” to keep them in the right groups.  But, who is leading in these scenarios? The truth is that our lives are so independent that they function away from the family community to deliver what is “best.”  Often led by our children themselves or the bar their peers have set.
  • Or do we just hate quiet?  Many of us are quick to fill the silence with music, TV, checking our phones.  We try to avoid the silence.  What do we fear?  Are we afraid of how it will feel?

So when is your quiet?  Hate to be cras, but the toilet use to be quiet until iphone.  When you wake up? Or is it a race to begin the days activities or read the news?

That is why I write to you my friend.  After losing a good friend and suffering myself, I have come to realize the physical consequences of ignoring the body’s need for rest.

What I Do To Get Sabbath Rest.

I want to share with you how I find the rest I need.  My family has one day a week that we do little to nothing.  This is usually Saturday but occasionally Sunday if the Saturday is busy hosting guests.  We will stay home or get into nature.  Ideally once a month but more often once every 3 months, I will take a getaway such as this:

I mentally wrote this blog last night at Nature Lodge where I spent 24 hours by myself in a cabin with no electricity.  I had my Bible, my coffee, and listened.  I would show you some beautiful pictures of my view but had to leave the phone at home with Marc (no self-discipline!)  I have to be honest with you.  I spent the first 4-5 hours just thinking.  Thinking about this blog.  Thinking about the people of East Cambodia and their needs, Thinking about my family.  Between each thought came a prayer, “Lord please quiet my mind to hear you.”  Finally, when my mind had emptied of all the ramblings, I felt quiet inside.  My mind was done hashing out our busy week which I feel is important for it to do.

It was time to listen and talk. The beautiful dialogue from God as opposed to the monologue I had been practicing for weeks up till this break.  What did he say to me?  “Come to me more often.  Wake up before the rug rats (He didn’t say rug rats, I’m just paraphrasing) wake each morning to be with me.”  Now, if you follow my blog at all, you may be thinking “wait a minute, you said you always wake up early and spend an hour in meditation.”  Which I would respond with, “well, you see, I slept in one day, then the next, then the next, and you get the picture.”

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Cabin at Nature Lodge. (pic found online)

This is a reminder to you and to us.  Friends and family, we love you and care about you.  We care about your physical and spiritual growth.  Make a plan today.  Take the next step and share that plan with me.  Then I can encourage you!  What are you going to do about the need of a weekly rest day?  Do you believe in the sabbath day?  What should that day of the week look like for you?

To read more, this is an excellent article!  The Lost Practice of Resting One Day Each Week

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The Key To Whole Hearted Living Is Vulnerability

Are you holding back in sharing your heart with others?  Do few people know your greatest struggles?  I believe your struggles were chosen for you by your maker who loves you and wants to help you through and strengthen you to be there for others.

People from all around the world are sick of liars and short on trust.  Most people have been hurt many times in their lives.  They are done with it and have made their circle as small as possible to not get hurt again.  Then they cross paths with you.

How do we go deep in relationships? How do we peel back the layers in other people’s lives in order to develop long-lasting relationships that are rewarding.

Vulnerability is the key.  Without vulnerability, there is no way to see what is inside another.  Without vulnerability, the walls between us and others remain.  Without vulnerability, we are unable to truly help others but will always remain distant and lonely.

In western culture, we set up professional walls.  As a nurse, doctor, therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist, we are taught to not be vulnerable.  This is often seen as unprofessional or crossing the line. But, the greatest professionals I’ve met in life are those who were willing to be vulnerable.

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Vulnerability is my life calling.  I met this group 3 months ago and have shared my personal struggles and pain with them.  Why?  Because they suffer from depression and anxiety and need to know the way out.

How can I be more vulnerable?

How do I do this?  I have chosen to be honest about who I am, what I like and don’t like, my pains and then path to healing.  That honesty frees me from my people-pleasing-burdensome-past.  I am free to be me with many people and let them chose to walk with me or not.  Through vulnerability, I have seen lives around me change for the better. I hear of lives touched.  This motivates and encourages me to keep going.

Its like I discovered a hidden medicine that no-one has seen and is too expensive to buy.  Why is it expensive? It costed me blood, sweat, and tears.  But, all of that was for nothing if it doesn’t pour out to heal others.  Now the pain was worth it!  How can you be more vulnerable?  By taking the first step.

Will I get hurt due to my vulnerability?

Yes.  Hurt people hurt people.  But, I have experienced way more joy than pain from relationships in my life.  There are times I have wanted to shut people out due to pain but I healed.  I chose to not live that way. I am so glad I made that choice!

What are the benefits of being vulnerable with others?

  • Vulnerability makes me a better leader.
  • Vulnerability makes me a better wife and mother.
  • Vulnerability makes me a better friend.
  • Vulnerability makes me a better writer.
  • Vulnerability makes me a better nurse.
  • Vulnerability makes me a better counselor.
  • Vulnerability makes me a better promoter of ideas.
  • Vulnerability creates eclectic relationships that are bridges to outsiders or those who would normally avoid us making our relationships a beautiful tapestry.

Here are some relationships awaiting you:

  • Cross cultural relationships that go deep.
  • Crossing over religious barriers giving both parties a breath of fresh air!
  • Cross family walls by admitting faults, apologizing for wrongs, and serving in love.

Our children are watching us and its my desire for them to live a life of happiness with fulfilling relationships.  My kids meet so many strangers in life.  We make friends with people from around the world, all different cultures, religions, and walks of life.  I am an example to them of being vulnerable, hospitable, and caring to bring new relationships in.

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As world travelers, these kids meet so many people.  I tell them to go deep, share their lives with others, and make friends with everybody you meet.

So what is holding you back?

Why are people afraid to be vulnerable?  Mostly fear of rejection and pain.  Fear of losing respect or looking like a fool.  I’ve experienced it all and can say that I have had times feeling awkward in conversations as I have shared and they did not.  But, I have had many more opportunities to help others than I have experienced embarrassment.

Therefore, don’t give up on people.

When is vulnerability unattractive?

Vulnerability is not complaining, brewing, gossiping, or venting.  All of these activities are emotional drains on yourself and others.  Be vulnerable BUT do be positive about the things you have endured in life.  Nobody wants to hear another complain.  You can present your struggles in a way that is hopeful, even when you don’t feel hopeful.  You can present your struggles without complaining.  Mention how you see your pains as helpful and healing to others.  You can see changes in yourself from the difficult experiences.  Positivity is important for us and others.  This helps in healing as we verbalize the good in the tough times.

I have a lot of friends.  I like having a lot of friends.  I like people.  I think good relationships are the key to happiness in this world.  Therefore, I use vulnerability wisely to open the door for more friendships in my life.  Friendships are not a burden for me.  Some feel that they only have time for a small circle but I have found that this is not true.  True friendship that includes vulnerability lasts over years, distance, even hurts and misunderstandings.  Don’t carry that burden but release yourself from the idea that those who hear you must like you.  If one rejects you, there are 10 more ready to accept you!

How will I feel after being vulnerable with others?

Peace.  Peace with God and peace with others.  You will find a fresh new purpose in your life as you walk others through their pains.

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so we can comfort those in any trouble with the same comfort we received from God.” 2 Corinthians 1:3-4

I’ve mentioned this quote before, but it is so good that it is worth mentioning again:

“Other people are going to find healing in your wounds. Your greatest life messages and your most effective ministry will come out of your deepest hurts.” Rick Warren The Purpose Driven Life.

In finality, vulnerability if done with positivity is not weak but brave.

“To be vulnerable is not weakness, rather it’s our most accurate measure of courage.” Brene Brown


How I Went From No Energy To Explosive Energy

Coming out of depression and anxiety was both exciting and exhausting.  I was no longer depressed and felt the joy of each sunrise but I was also weak.  I still struggled to get out of bed. I had gone from a marathoner pre-depression to not even wanting to take a walk. I did my normal obligations such as homeschool kids, help run our NGO, and help those in need but I didn’t have the energy to care for myself like I wanted to.  I knew I needed to make some changes but I didn’t really want to or know how to change.

If your still with me, I assume you relate to what I’m talking about.  I also assume you have little energy to stay with me much longer, so I’ll get to the point quick!

I shared this problem with a friend I’ve know for years and told her that “I just think I’m getting old.”  She said “that is not true.  Many people your age have found a natural daily kick to get their energy back.”  She recommended this and I finally listened:

Take Plexus

I don’t know why I waited so long to try it.  From day 1 of drinking the pink drink, I began to want to do things.  I did my daily activities with an extra kick.  I was so surprised that I suggested my husband do Plexus with me.  He too felt an extra kick of energy and can share his story with you later.  We read the ingredients to see if it was chalked full of junk only to find it was all natural.  We continue daily with 1 pink drink, probiotic, and Bio cleanse by Plexus. No longer do we need 3 cups of coffee, a sweet tea, or a coke to get us through the day.  We don’t want those things anymore.

Drink Water

I began drinking 8 glasses of water a day.  My motivation for this was not energy but healthier looking skin (I’m vain, I know).  I read about how 8 glasses of water helps decrease wrinkles, keeps you healthy, and makes eyes look more alert.  It did.  But, it also helped me wake up in the morning with more energy as I keep a bottle by my bed and drink it first thing.

Short and Sweet Exercise

After Plexus, I was on a roll.  I finally had the energy to begin jogging every morning for just 15 minutes.  I feel my legs are stronger and I am rarely out of breath.  This small bit of exercise has lifted my spirits and I feel good about myself again instead of weak.  On days that I’d rather not get out, I do a 7 minute routine that really works at getting overall strength back. The 7 Minute Workout

Morning Meditation and Prayer

Morning meditation and prayer are key to gaining energy all day.  Relaxing the mind, asking for supernatural strength, and giving our concerns to God eases our mind into the day.  It clears us of our worries so that we don’t carry a spiritual burden throughout the day.  To read more: Meditation As The Foundation Of My Spiritual Walk: Part 1

Sleep

Don’t skimp on it!  Get 8 hours.  Begin a nightly relax routine that starts 1 hour before bed and does not include devices!  You can do it.  It is worth it.  For motivation, Read this awesome book!

Get Out!

Get into nature often! Did you know that cancer patients who have a window overlooking nature recover faster than those who do not?  What does that say about us?  We need to take in creation often in order to feel the peace, calm, and energy to face our stress.  To read more: Saturday Afternoon Picnic

If All This Exhausts You To Even Think About it. . .

Begin with Plexus.  The truth is that I love to travel, to talk until I’m out of breathe, to run around with my kids and not slow down.  I feel like I got my life back and dropped 10 years off.  If you want to get started too, you can either email me or order Plexus TriPlex Combo yourself by going to this site.  You will get all your money back if you don’t like it up to 2 months.  So you can’t lose.  For a discount, email or contact me.  Plexus Order Page

Do you feel like your missing out on energy in your life?  I recommend you start with Plexus, drink 8 glasses of water, sleep 8 hours, and get into a morning routine of self care that includes prayer and brief exercise!  I would love to talk if you have any questions or comments! To learn more, read the next blog about how to save on Plexus! How Do I Save On Plexus?

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16 Things That Will Stop You From Meeting Your Purpose In Life

Trial by error.  Each of these lessons below are stated from experience and hey, I’m an open book.  I hope you benefit from my mistakes and get a laugh out of it too.  Marc and I’s purpose in life is to impact the lives in Southeast Asia for good which led us to begin an international NGO in an underdeveloped country.  Everything I said in that last sentence, ate my lunch.  If you don’t get what I’m saying, it kicked my butt.  But, it taught us a lot as we are living out our purpose and overcoming MANY obstacles. Here are the 16 things you can do, to stop yourself from meeting your goals in life.  Trust me, they work.

Accept All Labels People Put On You

Labels can take away the potential for change.  Diagnosis for life, negative characteristics, flaws, labels are all lies because we are forever changing.

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Why rejecting labels is important? I refused to accept a diagnosis about my mental health and choose to believe it was temporary.  I refuse to call my husband a pessimist and myself an optimist, knowing as circumstances change so does our perspective.  This was important in “getting back in the ring” when things got tough.

Compare Yourself To John, Dick, and Jane

“When I see ads on TV with smiling, happy housewives using a new cleaning product, the only thing I want to buy are the meds they must be on.”

Social media creates a picture perfect identity and I am constantly reminding my preteens of that.  In all seriousness, I can tell you that comparing yourself with others will create wasted emotional energy that will steal from your ability to move forward.  It will destroy potential friendships that could you attain more.  It can hurt those around you and create unnecessary bitterness and self hate. Don’t do it.

Broil in Bitterness

Why is forgiveness important for your success?  Bitterness in the heart only hurts us.  Hate and bitterness are contagious, harmful to those we love, and require great amount of emotional energy.  Hate in the heart must be dealt with before one can move on to their greatest potential.  Many believe that forgiveness is a feeling but actually it is a choice we make and sometimes that choice has to be made over and over again until the feeling comes along.

“Genuine forgiveness does not deny anger but faces it head-on.” Alice Miller

My battle with bitterness led to my betterment.  Facing anger is brave.  I became more confident in my abilities to love when I chose to forgive.

Fight Those Who Reject You

“To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.” Elbert Hubbard

Leaders will always be rejected by some.  This can be painful.  I recommend reading the book Leadership Pain: The Classroom For Growth.

The more we lead, the more we will experience rejection.  The more we speak out, the more we get criticized.  The more we do, the more we fail.  It’s just a number game.

The hard part is to learn to accept constructive criticism, reject negative criticism, and know the difference between the two.

Through prayer, meditation, and reading through the Bible, we have remained rooted in who we are, what we are called to do, and how we should be doing it.

Refuse To Work With Others

Team work is important; it helps to put the blame on someone else.

We all have an independent streak which can be used for good but independence to a fault will isolate you and lead to defeat.  “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:12

Marc needs me and I need him.  Without each other, we could have never succeeded.  If you didn’t read my 40 reasons why, take a moment to read it here: 40 Reasons Why I Love Working With My Husband

Partner With Anybody And Everybody

You know that tingly little feeling you get when you like someone? That’s your common sense leaving your body.

I have seen bad partnerships and bad marriage choices that have ended in pain.  Two people without one heart, mind, and purpose.  We can love, forgive, and accept others but this does not mean that we need to bring all people into our inner circle.

“Forgiveness must be immediate, whether or not a person asks for it.  Trust must be rebuilt over time.  Trust requires a track record.” Rick Warren.

Don’t Make Any Firm Decisions

I used to think I was indecisive, but now I’m not too sure.

Why is decisiveness important?  Leadership requires it and those who follow you are in great distress without it.  I use to work with a friend who I loved very much but he had a flaw.  He could never make a decision. At one point, this friend left the business for a year and did not put anyone else in charge.  He said that he didn’t want to hurt feelings.  While he was gone, the work struggled amidst lack of leadership, empowerment, and battles.  Confidence in your decision-making is a necessity to lead well.

Criticize Others

A recent study has found that women who carry a little extra weight live longer than the men who mention it.

Who doesn’t hate working in a place with gossip, bullying, judgmental attitudes, rudeness, rolling of eyes, etc. But the worst part of it all is. . .

a. It’s highly contagious and self-destructive to all.  Boom. Done. Purpose not achieved, not with this group!

b. For all you holier than thou’s, this exists in all places that people exist. Churches and other ministries are not excluded.  Repent, change, be done with it! Enough said:)

c. It starts in the brain, that’s right, your thoughts boil until finally spewing over.  Do you think that you can keep that inside and pursue your goals?  I didn’t think so!

d. It’s just not any fun!

“We are psychologically, emotionally, cognitively, and spiritually hardwired for connection, love, and belonging.” Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

Reject Your Leadership

After spending 16 years focused on the same goal, I can predict one thing for certain.  Leadership always changes.  Be patient not spiteful.

When my boss asked me who is the stupid one, me or him? I told him everyone knows he doesn’t hire stupid people.

Be Pessimistic

“In Business and in life, the reasonable optimist will win every time.” The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor

Change the phrase “I have to” into “I get to” and you will find it makes a world of difference in your day. Remember, how we experience the world is shaped by our mindset. 

  • I have get to go to work.
  • I have get to wash my families clothes.
  • I have get to drive a car in traffic.
  • I have get to cook for my family.
  • I have get to pick my kids up from school.
  • My to do get to do list.

Cut Into Your Sleep So You Can “Be More Productive”

If you haven’t yet, pick this book up!  Arianna Huffington will eloquently convince you to change your sleep habits now!  Personally, I hurt myself very bad from not getting enough sleep.  I believe adequate sleep could have helped prevent a period of depression and anxiety in my life.  I’ve shared some quotes below from this book.

“Many of the genes affected by lack of sleep are involved in processing stress and regulating our immune system.”

“Once I started getting 7-8 hours of sleep, it became easier to meditate, exercise, and make wiser decisions.”

“Sleep makes us better at our jobs while simultaneously reminding us that we are more than our jobs.”

Believe Your Morality Doesn’t Affect Your Success

Temptation to believe that our own trip-ups will not harm others or be discovered by others is an age-old lie.  We found that as we were on the path to attaining our goals, we would be tempted to compromise our moral code, who we wanted to be.  Looking back, if we had tripped in those moments, we would not be anywhere near to meeting the goals and purpose in our lives.

That being said, there have been tearful confessions in our family with apologies, forgiveness, and moving forward together that was necessary.  To sweep any temptation under the rug, is to arrogantly say, I will not fall.  Neither of us have ever regretted the open confession we have had in our 20 years of marriage.

Don’t Sacrifice Your Desires

Any goal achieved without sacrifice is worthless.  Any gift given without sacrifice has little value.  Our greatest achievements are due to our greatest sacrifices.  The more we give, the more we get back.  Do you believe this?  Live like it.  Give away more than you get.  I promise you that you can depend on God for everything.

The “I deserve it” mentality will only set you back.  If we give reluctantly, we become bitter and mad.  Often in our times of difficulty or when funding has been short, we have felt that anger saying “I’ve worked hard, and I deserve to get what I need.”

Choose to sacrifice and give freely without expectations but in hope.

We have sacrificed many things in our life but the blessed part is that God has provided all we need.  We are not financially rich but what we’ve given in money has come back with contentment, happiness, joy, fulfillment, love, and other things that you can’t put a price tag on.

Quit If You Don’t Succeed

“The next time you face a daunting challenge, think to yourself, “In order for me to resolve this issue, I will have to fail nine times, but on the tenth attempt, I will be successful.” This attitude frees you and allows you to think creatively without fear of failure, because you understand that learning from failure is a forward step toward success.”  The 5 Elements of Effective Thinking by Edward B. Burger

You will want to quit!  I wish somebody would have told me that!  I wish I believed it when someone probably told me that!  But, guess what secret I know now.  The greatest moment comes after you jump that hurdle.  When all you want to say is “I quit, I give up, I’m exhausted, I did my best, its all I can do,” is when you realize that your goals are not your own but they are divinely His!  He wants to achieve good things through me and he will overcome because my goals are His goals.

Don’t Forgive Yourself

I am a nobody, nobody is perfect, therefore I am perfect. You are perfect.  You are perfectly you with all of your mistakes you’ve learned from, all of your weaknesses you’ve smudged into your career, and all of your successes that came from realizing your weaknesses.

I hate guilt and shame.  I love conviction from God because He is slow to anger and speaks with love.  Guilt and shame are damaging and discouraging.  Fight it and don’t accept it.  Unreasonable guilt and shame can destroy a person inside out leading to depression:

“A study using data from 108 studies with 22,411 participants found that shame and unreasonable guilt (guilt in which one feels an inflated sense of responsibility for events that they could not control, and more general guilt which is not specifically linked to a certain situation) were similarly linked to depressive symptoms.” (1)

Decide It Is Not Worth It

Success comes when “The fear of loss is greater than the desire for gain.” Zig Ziglar

Every couple of years, this is what you will hear us say “Is it worth it?  All this work.  All the sacrifice.  Should we quit?  Are we really heading anywhere or making a difference?  Have the hurdles become too difficult?  Do we have enough energy to move forward?” Discouragement comes.

What trait is the greatest predictor of success according to research?  Grit, courage in difficulty, perseverance through pain.  To attain high goals in life and fulfill your purpose, it will hurt.  But, this is the life without regret.  Let’s do it together!

(Continue to follow my blog to read more about defining and developing your grit.)

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Why did I include this picture?  I just thought it was funny!

If you saw a good joke here, I may have made it up but most likely it came from http://www.onelinefun.com!

  1. Kim, S., Thibodeau, R., & Jorgensen, R. S. (2011). Shame, guilt, and depressive symptoms: A meta-analytic review. Psychological bulletin, 137, 68-96.
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